Marmalade on Wry

I so wanted to be an awesome food blogger, I have so many opinions about food. Then life is happening. And although I continue to eat & have good & bad experiences in restaurants all over the world, food is only part of life. Meanwhile the comment spam keeps happening over here. And life continues on.
This week one of my good friends, a sort of earth mother hippie-momma type, her daughter posted some nastiness on Facebook. It really bothered me, and I thought about it several times over the next few days. Her daughter is 13, and the post was full of invective & cursing about another girl at her school. There were more than 50 comments, continuing name-calling, just terrible. Bullying, mean, just horrific all around.
Well, after 3 days I checked and the post was still there. Now both of her parents are on FB, and this young woman is FB friends with a number of adults. I finally decided that I should stick my nose in and let the mom know what her daughter was doing on FB, even if it meant she thought I was budding in inappropriately. If my kids were speaking like that to other people, I would want to know, but I have met plenty of parents who don’t see their own child’s issues. I tread carefully, I wrote thoughtfully. I hit send.

And then I just let go. What ever will be, will be, but I don’t want to be a bystander to hate.

I received two messages back from my friend, the first of shock because she was unaware, and thanking me for letting her know. The second message was more about the general follow-up, and how the girls had actually already made-up by the time she asked her daughter to delete the post.

Being angry is OK. Leaving your anger out for everyone to see, especially when your anger is poised on a 13 year old girl, is just sad & bullying. I’m glad I’m still have my friend, but I’m also really glad that the angry messages are gone & not continuing to feed the beast of hate.

I’m not going to proof read, it is what it is.